The Primary Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse

Support For Lots Of Stress

If you have lots of stress, and you turn to sexual behaviors to cope with that stress, then this page is for you. It does not matter what your chosen behavior is: If it is sexual in nature, then you have come to the right place.

Why Get Support?

If you are at this page, you probably know the reason why: You just cannot do it on your own. You have tried, and you are getting more and more desperate, more and more lonely, and more and more afraid. It is time for that cycle to end. Chances are, the people who care about you are concerned. They have probably noticed that something is off, and they might have said something to you. Well, they say that because they care about you, they just do not know what is bothering you. They can be a valuable resource in helping you take the first steps to getting help, but they need to know what is going on. That is not an easy conversation to have, but it can start with the words, “I have a problem that I have hidden from you, and I want your help in facing that problem and getting better.”

Yes, that first step is hard to take. But once you do, a whole new world opens: A world where you can be honest with the people closest to you, and you do not have to hide anymore. Keeping secrets and finding that new high can take a lot more energy than you think, and having that weight lifted is like those martial arts movies where people train with weights, and then take them off for a fight and get faster and stronger. You probably never even noticed the weight was there before, and chances are that you will not unless you tell someone about what is going on. Even if that first step is calling a hotline, it is a step worth taking. Below are some resources you can use to finding help with sexual issues related to stress.

Support Resources

This list of resources is in semi-alphabetical order. This site presents them as resources and does not endorse any particular organization over another. You must do your own research on what best fits your situation.

This is a US-specific organization that educates, certifies, and trains therapists and others in topics related to sexuality. They have a tool to locate sexuality professionals in your area, provided you live in the US.

This company has a variety of assessment and treatment services. While it is based in Minnesota and Pennsylvania, they may be able to refer you to resources in your area. While they focus on cybersex, internet, and sexual addictions, they may be able to help you pin down other resources related to these areas

This is a 12-step program designed for those with sexual addiction or dependency issues. They have meetings in the US, Canada, and a variety of other countries. They also have electronic meetings if your country is not represented, and they have a handy tool at the top to find out if their program is right for you. Similar programs are Sexaholics Anonymous and Sexual Compulsives Anonymous.

This is a support system for parents. Their helpline (US, 1-855-427-2736) is available M-F, 10am-7pm PST, and many resources are available on their website. If you are not in the US, you may be able to find something in your area by searching “support hotline for parents in [location].”

This is a referral tool that you can use. It is a confidential form where people can get help with a variety of issues. Do not let the name of the organization fool you: They are mental health professionals who only want to help, and they will not assume you have or will harm someone sexually. Under the first section, select “potential client,” and select the population that best fits you, and under “referral type”, select “community outpatient.”

Stop It Now! operates a helpline available in the United States, and they can direct you to resources in those areas as well as serving as someone to talk to. Most contact is anonymous unless you choose to share identifying information.

The Center for Sexual Health is located in Minneapolis, Minnesota, and is one of the main clinics that can handle a wide range of sexual health concerns, including compulsive sexual behavior. They do refer people to other clinics if you are not in their area.

This organization is one of many focused on sexual health, and they have a tool that can show affiliate therapists on a map. This can be a useful start for finding therapy, though doing a simple internet search for “sexual health therapists in [location]” may be easier.

Safer Lives is a UK-based project led by a three-person team, and provide support for people who have harmed or are under police investigation.

By using this site, you agree to its terms of service and privacy policy

Please read our terms of use (https://www.csaprimaryprevention.org/terms-of-use.html) and privacy policy (https://www.csaprimaryprevention.org/privacy-policy.html). Indicate that you have read and understood them, or wish to be taken elsewhere below. By clicking yes, you indicate you agree to be bound by our terms, and are at least 13 years of age.

Terms of Service

By using this site and its affiliates, https://csaprimaryprevention.blogspot.com and https://aboutpedophilia.com, you agree to the following terms and conditions, as well as the privacy policy:

  • If you do not agree with these terms of use, do not use this site.
  • If you are under 13 years of age, do not use this site.
  • If you are a researcher or host research articles, and you come across a full-text article that has been restricted to purchasing, use the contact form to identify the article. Please indicate which page you found it on, your credentials, and what organization you represent. Any full-text article was originally found and downloaded for free from the sites that host such research. TNF 13 does not have privileged access to any periodicals or educational host sites.
  • This site uses “cookies” which are stored in your computer and assist with providing relevant information to you and other users of this site. If you do not wish to have cookies stored on your computer, you may find out more information regarding how to do that here. If you are unfamiliar with cookies, see here. If you take no action regarding cookies and continue to use this site, you agree to this site’s use of cookies.
  • You hereby acknowledge that the information on this site is to get help to those who may need it, and will not use anything from this site to stalk, harass, bully, insult, threaten, label, defame, or otherwise cause intentional harm to anyone.
  • You hereby acknowledge that any reliance upon any materials shall be at your sole risk. If you become aware of an error, you are encouraged to use the contact form and report it, along with the source for your correction. This site reserves the right, in its sole discretion and without any obligation, to make aesthetic improvements to or correct any factual, spelling, or hyperlink errors or omissions in any portion of the materials contained herein. The information held on this site does not constitute professional counseling or guidance.
  • This site does not accept liability for any kind of damages or consequential damages arising from the use or loss of use from this site.
  • This site will never suggest that you keep knowledge of any crime from law enforcement professionals, and this site is not responsible if you choose to withhold that information. If you submit information through this site or the blog that indicates a crime has been committed, or you suspect one has occurred, it will be reported to law enforcement.
  • You hereby acknowledge that your use of this site will be in keeping with the laws in your area, and that your use will not infringe on the rights of or restrict the use of this site to others. You agree not to use the information on this site to stalk, harass, or otherwise cause distress to others, and you agree not to interfere with the flow of information on this site.
  • The point of this site is not to give any kind of legal, medical, educational, mental health, or other kinds of advice. This is an academically-oriented resource site intended to bring in information from multiple sources for ease of use. If you have attractions, thoughts, or feelings that you are concerned about, please get yourself to a mental health professional that specializes in that area, and do not rely solely on the information contained in this site. I will never encourage you to break the law or any kind of legal requirements you have, and I am not responsible if you do.
  • Should you seek mental health help for any reason, you are hereby notified that a mental health provider may be required to report to law enforcement under circumstances specific to that provider and the location they are in. These are called “mandatory reporting laws”: These laws vary by location, and you are responsible for knowing what they are and how they affect your situation.
  • The research and information covered in this site is open for discussion, and in no way breaches or breaks the boundaries of the law in any state of the United States of America where I live.
  • I am not a mental health professional nor do I claim to have any formal medical background. I am not liable, either expressly or in an implied manner, nor claim any responsibility for any emotional or physical problems that may occur directly or indirectly from reading this site.
  • TNF 13 is the author of “The Primary Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse” blog and site. TNF 13 is its own entity, and “The Primary Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse” is not affiliated with any organization, nor is TNF 13 a spokesperson any organization named or linked in both sites. TNF 13 references materials from a variety of sources for ease of access and claims no responsibility for external material. The existence of any links or name mentions do not constitute an endorsement by TNF 13 of that organization or individual’s views or activities.

Mental Health Warnings And Disclaimers

  • This is an informational site. The resources made available by this website are general in nature, and provided for informational purposes only. They are the opinions of a non-professional. This site should not be used to replace the specialized training and professional judgment of a health care or mental health care professional.
  • This site cannot be held responsible for the use of the information provided. Please always consult a physician or a trained mental health professional before making any decision regarding treatment of yourself or others.
  • Self-help information and information from the internet is useful, but it is not a substitute for professional advice. If you are currently in treatment or in therapy, please consult your therapist, psychiatrist or mental health professional before you use any of the information contained herein.
  • This website and its content (including any uploaded information) is for informational purposes only and is not intended to replace or substitute for any professional, medical, legal, or any other advice. In addition, this site makes no representations or warranties and expressly disclaims any and all liability concerning any treatment or action by any person following the information offered or provided within or through the website. If you have specific concerns or find yourself in a situation in which you require professional or medical advice, you should consult with an appropriately trained and qualified specialist.
  • All information is intended only to help you cooperate with your doctor, in your efforts toward desirable sexual health. Only you and your doctor can determine what is right for you.
  • All information is generalized, presented for informational purposes only, not medical advice, and presented “as is” without warranty or guarantee of any kind.

Privacy Policy

TNF 13/Timothy N. Fury operates the website https://www.csaprimaryprevention.org and the blogs https://csaprimaryprevention.blogspot.com and https://aboutpedophilia.com, which provides free resources, discussion points, and non-expert advice into preventing sexual abuse before it can happen, herein collectively referred to as “Service”.

This page is used to inform website and blog visitors regarding our policies with the collection, use, and disclosure of Personal Information if anyone decides to use our Service.

If you choose to use our Service, then you agree to the collection and use of information as outlined by this policy. The Personal Information that we collect are used for providing and improving the Service. We will not use or share your information with anyone except as described in this Privacy Policy.

The terms used in this Privacy Policy have the same meanings as in our Terms and Conditions, which is accessible at https://www.csaprimaryprevention.org/terms-of-use.html, unless otherwise defined in this Privacy Policy.

Information Collection and Use

For a better experience while using our Service, you have the option on the contact pages of providing us with certain personally identifiable information, including but not limited to your name, email address, news organization, and whatever information you choose to provide. The information that we collect will be used to contact and identify you, but will be kept confidential UNLESS:

  • You indicate a crime has been committed that has not been reported to law enforcement
  • You indicate that you suspect a crime has been committed, and has not been reported to law enforcement
  • We suspect a crime has been committed

Log Data

We want to inform you that whenever you visit our Service, third-party services (including but not limited to: Google Analytics, Cloudfare, Twitter, Facebook) collect information that your browser sends to us that is called Log Data. This Log Data may include information such as your computer’s Internet Protocol (“IP”) address, browser version, pages of our Service that you visit, the time and date of your visit, the time spent on those pages, and other statistics intended to improve the services available on the site.

Cookies

Lorem ipsum dolor sit amet, consectetur adipiscing elit. Ut elit tellus, luctus nec ullamcorper mattis, pulvinar dapibus leo.

Service Providers

We may employ third-party companies (i.e., Cloudfare, Google Analytics, Twitter, Facebook) due to the following reasons:

  • To facilitate our Service
  • To advertise this website on other domains
  • To provide the Service on our behalf
  • To perform Service-related services
  • To assist us in analyzing how our Service is used.

We want to inform our Service users that these third parties have access to your Personal Information. The reason is to perform the tasks assigned to them on our behalf. However, they are obligated not to disclose or use the information for any other purpose.

Security

We value your trust in providing us your Personal Information, thus we are striving to use responsible means of protecting it. Always remember that no method of transmission over the internet, or method of electronic storage is 100% secure and reliable, and we cannot guarantee its absolute security.

A lot could be said about anonymity and the internet, and there are many guides on this. It is your responsibility, if anonymity and privacy are a concern to you, to use services and products that address those concerns.

Links to Other Sites

Our Service may contain links to other sites. If you click on a third-party link, you will be directed to that site. Note that these external sites are not operated by us. Therefore, we strongly advise you to review the Privacy Policy of these websites, read more. We have no control over, and assume no responsibility for the content, privacy policies, or practices of any third-party sites or services.

Children’s Privacy

Our Services do not address anyone under the age of 13. We do not knowingly collect personal identifiable information from children under 13. In the case we discover that a child under 13 has provided us with personal information, we immediately delete this from our servers. If you are a parent or guardian and you are aware that your child has provided us with personal information, please contact us so that we will be able to delete the appropriate data.

Changes to this Privacy Policy

We may update our Privacy Policy from time to time. Thus, we advise you to review this page periodically for any changes. We will notify you of any changes by posting the new Privacy Policy on this page. These changes are effective immediately, after they are posted on this page.

Contact Us

If you have any questions or suggestions about our Privacy Policy, do not hesitate to contact us.

  • Readers are cautioned not to rely on this information as medical advice and to consult a qualified mental health professional other appropriate professional to address their specific needs or circumstances.
  • Please seek immediate professional help:
  • If you have thoughts of harming or killing yourself or others
    • If you are severely disabled and are unable to care for yourself or those in your care
    • If you are abusing drugs or alcohol, or have an addiction
    • If you or someone else is in any danger of harm
    • If you have been diagnosed with a mental health disorder or suspect you have one
    • If you or a loved one are in need of an intervention