I Like Kids

If you came to this page, and you have had a sexual attraction to younger children for longer than 6 months, then read on. If you are concerned with whether you might have an attraction because that one child led to you feeling aroused and you are very worried about it, but do not have fantasies of children, then you may not have minor attraction and may have POCD, or pedophilia obsessive compulsive disorder. POCD needs are best addressed by therapists specializing in anxiety disorders.

If much of your fantasies involve children, and that has gone on for a long time, then you may have minor attraction. In short, one single instance, or even a few, of being aroused by children does not mean you are minor attracted. But if you are sure that you are minor attracted, then you may keep reading. If you are not sure, please exit this page.

Repeat this to yourself: “I am not a monster, and I did not choose this.” The fact is that most people with a sexual attraction to children do not sexually abuse children (see here for details), and most people who do sexually abuse children do not have a sexual attraction to them. Some of this can be difficult to believe, but you can run by the fact section about minor attraction if you want to know more facts where the information on this page comes from.

The bottom line is that having a sexual attraction to children is still extremely stigmatized, and most people do not have the facts about a sexual attraction to children. It is highly likely that what you have been told about your attraction to children is not accurate: Most people do not know what pedophilia is, or how it differs from sexual attractions to older children. You have a head start by coming to this site, because it contains information pulled from recent research rather than the random stuff you might hear by word-of-mouth.


A Word About Terms

There are some inaccurate words that people throw around imprecisely that can impact how you read this section. To make it easier, a sexual attraction to children is simply referred to as a sexual attraction to children, and the proper terms are avoided. Increasingly, professionals and those with these attractions are referring to those with such attractions as Minor Attracted Persons, or MAPs, and a sexual attraction to children can sometimes simply be referred to as minor attraction. While use of the word “minor” can be seen as objectifying, we can all agree that it is simpler and less confusing than CAPs. Some of the resources linked below use the acronym MAPs exclusively, or interchangeably with pedophiles. It is typically better for your mental health not to define yourself by a condition that you have (i.e., a person with depression rather than a depressed person), but sometimes these terms must be used for the sake of simplicity.

Answering Questions You May Have

This can be one of the first things people can tell you if you tell them you are attracted to kids. If you are wondering if you need a therapist because you have an attraction to children? Only you can make that determination, and only you can decide if therapy is right for you. If you view yourself as a bad person or feel depressed because of your attractions, or you think it is acceptable to be sexual with a child, then you may benefit from seeing a therapist.

If you think you need professional help because you have been told that you are sick and you need help, then please know that it is your decision to make, and yours alone. Finding your self-worth from what other people think of you is a search that will never end. You need to decide for yourself what makes you worthy.

No, they do not. You can drop by this page or this page for more detailed information, but essentially, only one-third of sexual abusers have pedophilia and 61% of those with harmful sexual imagery (child pornography) convictions have pedophilia, and most with pedophilia do not abuse children. While many believe that having pedophilia makes someone a risk to children, the facts do not support this claim and sexual pleasure is usually not a primary motivating factor in those who sexually abuse children.

You tell me. Are you? While you cannot say for certain where your decisions and actions will lead, you and only you know how you feel about being sexual with children. You are only a risk to children if you decide for yourself that it is acceptable to be sexual with a child. That decision might not happen in a single moment, but your choices are yours. If you decide not to be a risk to children, then you just answered your own question, because sexually abusing a child is a choice that you can choose not to make.

No. Being sick implies a condition that can be changed with time or treatment, and being sexually attracted to children is not like that. Experts have said it is a sexual orientation, and some treat it as part of sexuality, even if this is not accepted by the average person. It being a sexuality or sexual orientation has no bearing on behaviors towards children, and does not make those behaviors acceptable.

This is not simple to answer, and one paragraph is not nearly enough space to answer this question. This is covered in detail in later sections. You and only you know your environment and the attitudes of those around you. Your information is yours, and sharing it with others puts control of that information in their hands. There are resources available and people to talk to, but you may want to stay anonymous and use a pseudonym for your protection if you share your attractions, particularly on the internet. There are entire groups of people who seek to out, doxx, and harass people simply for having this attraction, and it is best to remain anonymous online.

Simply having an attraction to children is not an addiction, nor is it a mental illness, a disease, or a perversion. It is amoral, and does not form or control your decisions. While having an attraction to children may make it slightly easier to get wrapped into sexually addictive behaviors, the attraction itself is a sexual orientation: It is something you did not choose and cannot change.

Is it wrong to read fiction novels or play video games? Is it wrong for an adult to fantasize about another adult, regardless of their sexual orientation? If you follow a religion where any sexual fantasy towards people of any age is unacceptable, then it would be wrong for you to have a fantasy about a child. If not, then imagining a fictional situation in which you are being sexual with a child is just a fantasy. The concern comes when that fantasy turns into viewing child sexual abuse images (you might know it as child pornography, see the glossary for more information) or being sexual with a child. If you feel disturbed or depressed by having these fantasies, then you may want to find professional help to sort through why you feel that way, or find healthier alternatives that also address your needs.

“Cure” is a stigmatized and stigmatizing word. If you are choosing to view your attraction as something that is wrong with you, you need to be aware that viewing yourself that way is not helpful and can be very harmful to your mental health. Researchers in the field of atypical sexual issues treat an attraction to children that has gone on longer than a few months as a sort of orientation, and research suggests that there is no way to change that orientation. There may be some therapists who try to change sexual attraction, but these attempts can cause serious and lasting psychological harm to you, and are best avoided.

Absolutely. Some have chosen to get involved in advocacy, others use their gifts with children to better the lives of children, while still others try to work on developing resources for people with a sexual attraction to children. There is no reason you cannot use your attractions in a positive way, it is just a matter of finding what works best for your particular skill set. There may be some triggering situations around children that you need to avoid, and you should always avoid spending alone time with children if you can (any volunteer or worker with children should), but those will vary based on you and your needs. You need to do what is safe, but also what is best for you.

Yes, there is. There are many resources (some of which are on the bottom of this page) that you can use for finding support, but at the end of the day, it is not pedophilia that needs managing, it is your thoughts and beliefs about pedophilia that need managing. You can have pedophilia and live a perfectly ordinary life. Of course, you can also choose to help others with pedophilia too!

Being sexual with a child in any way (touching private areas, exposing yours to a child, viewing naked children on the internet, and asking a child to show you their private areas, for instance) is illegal. While the legal definition for “child” varies by location, you do not want to violate the law and it is your responsibility to know the laws in your area. Some jurisdictions require sexual intent for the act to be illegal, where others do not.

Taking sexual photographs or videos of children is illegal, along with viewing and distributing these images. Some locations call these pictures “child pornography” while others call it “indecent images of children” or “sex abuse images.” In some locations (such as Canada, the UK, and Australia), viewing fictionally drawn or cartoon images depicting children in sexual situations is illegal, where in some locations (such as the US and Japan) it is either legal or not prosecuted.

Legalities aside, if it is sexual and involves a real child, avoid it: You do not want to cause harm to a child, not only for the child’s sake and because you care about the child, but because doing so will damage you as well. If you are unsure if something is legal or not, do not do it unless you can be sure it is legal.

The Good News

Many, many people have learned to live with sexual attractions without hurting kids (you can read some stories here). You can be one of them. The best news is that, according to our best estimates, less than 10% of people who like kids sexually actually go on to sexually abuse them. Most people find friends who can help, or even a therapist to talk with about it when they get that far. But right now, you are where you are. All you need to worry about is that you are you, and no one gets to tell you who you are or what you will do. Your actions are a result of your choices, and if you do not want to hurt a child, then you can simply choose that you will not hurt a child.

But do not beat yourself up because you have an attraction you cannot help.

The second part I need to get into is that we know a lot about this condition. It is called pedophilia, and yes, having pedophilia makes you a pedophile. To some people, being minor attracted means that you have sexually abused a child. However, abusing a child, no matter how people misuse the word “pedophile”, does not make someone a pedophile: It is only the sexual attraction to children that makes someone a pedophile. We also know that there are lots of people who are experts in helping people with pedophilia, and you might be able to find one of them at some point. If you are not 18 or the age of majority in your country, you will likely need your parent’s permission to get professional help.

A sexual attraction to children, by itself, is not hard to deal with. The part that can make a sexual attraction to children difficult is what you think about you having a sexual attraction to children, and what you think about yourself. Having a sexual attraction to children is not something that you chose. You surely know that much, right? You did not wake up one morning and say to yourself, “You know, I think I will try out liking children, that sounds like a good idea.” No, it just happened, and you one day realized that you like kids. It does not make you a bad person, or any less a human being. You might hear otherwise, but simply having an attraction does not make you better or worse than anyone else.

Usually, we apply negative labels to people who do things to other people that are hurtful, and you did not do anything to like kids. Some people might think that having a sexual attraction to children means that you will someday be sexual with a child, and their disgust at you for having a sexual attraction is because they assume that you will molest a child or have already done so. Their assumption is wrong, and it is their fault, not yours. You and only you get to decide how you will behave, and most with a sexual attraction to children choose to never harm a child.

Another piece of good news is that many people who like kids who go on to parent children are not attracted to their own children. You have the option of raising a family, if that is what you want, and you put in the effort to overcome the challenges to making that happen. It may be difficult for you to find someone to date or marry who you are sexually attracted to and who is interested in you, but do not give up just because it is hard. Lots of things in life are hard.

The Bad News

I do not think I can go much further without telling you some bad news. One bit of bad news is that, if you are under 18, you cannot see a therapist about this without your parents’ permission, should you feel the need. That means that, if you want to talk to an expert about it, you must tell your parents about how you feel about children, and that can be not only hard, but in some cases, it is impossible or unwise. This can prevent you from seeking professional help. Several sections below discuss who to tell, how, and how to determine who is safe.

Another hard part is how people see you, and dealing with the people that simply do not know, care, or understand what it is like to be in your shoes. There will be people who will tell you things that are wrong, and there will be things you read in the news that are wrong. They can be upsetting. When that happens, you need to have something to read and go back to. This site can be perfect for that, but there are also communities and resources you can go to for help, at the bottom  of this page.

Something to keep in mind is that a lot of news media and other people misuse the words “pedophile” and “pedophilia”. They are not talking about a sexual attraction to children, or someone with it, but the act of sexually abusing a child and those who abuse them. You can usually figure out how they mean it by how they phrase it. If they are talking about the pedophile’s victims, or a convicted pedophile, or something similar, you can be sure that they are talking about a child molester and are misusing terminology. A lot of people are unable to see the difference between a pedophile and a child molester, or just do not care enough to make a distinction.

Arguments About Being Sexual With A Child

At some point in your life, you will probably either come up with arguments or come across arguments that other people have written for why you could act on your attractions and be sexual with a child. Some of these arguments may have points that are logical and based on fact, while many of the main points and conclusions have serious flaws to them.

It may go without saying, but children are not emotionally mature enough to be in a sexual or romantic relationship with an older child or adult. Part of this is because relationships are hard, and children do not have the experience to make them work. Part of it is because children do not have enough social skills to keep up with older teens, children, and adults. They simply do not have the emotional capacity to understand all of what goes on in a relationship.

Sexually, children are totally off-limits, and that includes touching their private areas, sexual actions like oral sex or masturbation, or showing them pornography. Legally, you can get in very serious trouble that can impact not only the rest of your life, but also the life of the child. While it is true that in some cases, a child being sexual with an older youth or adult does not cause the child harm, there is no way to figure out which children will be harmed and which children will not be harmed before the act. That can only be figured out by time after the event. Put simply, the risk of hurting the child is too big, and it is a gamble at best. You do not want to put a severe risk of harm to chance, you want to avoid that risk.

It is also not possible to expect to interact with a child without the child feeling that they must do what the adult or older person says. Children will usually trust authority figures, and they will view those older than them as authority figures. Because of this, a sexual relationship with a child would have to involve manipulating, bullying, and coercing the child in some form, even if you do not mean to bully, manipulate, or coerce the child.

As someone attracted to children, you do not want to hurt a child in this way. You care too much.

Challenges To Coming Out

One decision that you are going to have to face eventually is telling other people that you have sexual attractions to children. I want to be clear that if you do this, you are taking a risk. Not everyone knows what you know about your attractions. They do not know that you will never act on them, they do not know that most people who have a sexual attraction to children never act on that attraction. To most people, pedophile and child molester are the same thing. In their mind, if you are telling them you have attractions to children, they will automatically wonder what the name of the child you molested was.

That is not to say that there are never safe people to talk with, but it means you need to be very, very careful in deciding who you will tell and how. Why should you tell at all? Because you can get help in facing it. You would then have people you can talk to if things get difficult. You can tell yourself that you are not a monster for having these feelings, but it can sometimes sound so much more believable if it is coming from someone who knows you and cares about you.

You must treat this with a healthy amount of respect, though, because your information in the wrong hands can have a very serious impact on your life. People have lost jobs, places to live and more because the wrong person found out about someone’s sexual attraction to children. Some families have disowned a child for having an attraction to children. These horror stories may sound far-fetched, but they can be real if you do not take precautions to who you tell and how.

Figuring Out Who Is Safe To Tell

The first thing you could do to figure out safe people to talk with is to review what you know of them. Do they insult or mock gay or transgendered people? If so, they are likely not safe. Do they have compassion for gay or transgendered people? If so, they are likely safer to talk with. Knowing how they treat other people with sexual attractions of other kinds can tell you how they would treat you. Does the person seem to be a good listener, and really care about you? Sometimes, these people might be friends, sometimes they might be family members. It may be easier to tell a good friend first, and have them present if you decide to tell your family, depending on how that goes.

The next thing you could do is feel out how the person feels about a similar issue. Start a conversation about that topic or issue. Some examples could be asking what they think of gay people, mental illness/mental disorders, what motivates child molestation, or just bluntly asking what they think of pedophiles (start by asking what they think a pedophile is: Make it sound like you heard the word and want to know what they think about it, for example).

You can do many of these things without raising any kind of suspicion towards yourself. You will want to avoid saying things like, “A friend of mine told me he’s attracted to kids,” as most people will see right through that and think that you are asking for yourself. It is better to make it sound like you heard about whatever issue (see above examples) you are testing them with, and want to know what they think about the issue. What they say in response can help you figure out if that person is a safe person to talk with.

Does the person dodge the question, and not answer it? Do they have a very, very strong opinion towards the issue? You can usually tell by their words and how they say them if they are responding positively or negatively to the issue you are asking them about, and sometimes you can tell if someone is safe by how you feel around them. Please understand that if you choose to tell someone about your feelings because you feel they are safe, and if that person reacts negatively, this site is in no way responsible. Make that decision with care, and know that you are taking a risk.

Telling Parents

Telling your parents may be an option, depending on your situation. Sometimes, telling your parents is an option, and sometimes it is not safe to talk to them. Only you know your situation. While it may be safer to tell a safe friend first and then your parents, only you can decide what is right for you. If you want to get the professional help of a therapist, you cannot do so without your parents’ input. This site does have a section for parents and a fact section about minor attraction that may be helpful to present to parents if you do decide to tell your parents.

There are also some success stories about people telling loved ones that they are sexually attracted to children. A success story about a minor attracted person coming out to his parents can be found here, while a success story about a minor attracted person coming out to his wife can be found here. Another minor attracted person wrote an open letter to his mother, which he is still unsure if he will ever share. These situations are not common, however. 

How To Tell Someone

So, you have felt out the person you want to tell, and you think they might be safe to talk with. So… now what? You can take several paths, and which one you take is entirely up to you:

  1. You can keep it simple, and let them ask the questions.
  2. You could try to predict and answer all their questions yourself.
  3. You can write a letter. You could also write a letter and then read from it or use it for reference.
  4. You can also adapt other guides to coming out, which are aimed at LGBTQ+ youth, for yourself. A nice comprehensive guide is available on Wikihow.

By keeping it simple, I mean just saying it and being blunt and direct. Something like, “Fred, I need to tell you something that is very important. I have a sexual attraction to young children. If you have questions, I can try to answer them. But I want you to know so that you can support me in staying safe and healthy. I am committed to never hurting a child, but I want to face this with other people rather than trying to face it alone.” If you keep it simple, you should still be prepared to answer difficult questions, and some of these questions may be troubling to you. 

Some of these hard questions might be: 

  • Why are you telling me this?
  • Have you molested a child?
  • Are you attracted to all children?
  • Are you attracted to girls, boys, or both?
  • What do you know about pedophilia?
  • How long have you known this?
  • When did you first discover this attraction?
  • How does this make you feel?
  • Have you done research on this?
  • Have you sexted or looked at pornography of younger children?
  • Do you think you will act on this?
  • How does your attraction feel?
  • Do you think you need help?
  • How many people know about this?

Getting Professional Support

Getting professional support can be a great decision that can help you. While therapy can sometimes be viewed negatively and inaccurately by some, the goal of any therapist is to help you improve yourself by identifying unhealthy habits, beliefs, or thoughts and coming up with healthier solutions. Their goal is not to change your personality or any of the things that make you who you are. Their goal is to help you see new things about yourself so that you can make great choices and get to a mentally healthier place than you were when you started seeing them. While therapy may not be for everyone, sometimes the hardest part of having a good experience with therapy is just selecting the right therapist. That is part of why this site exists.

Finding A Therapist

Finding a therapist that specializes in sexual issues and has direct experience with people who are sexually attracted to children can be a challenge. Some of the resources at the bottom of this page have tools or referral forms you can use to find a therapist in your area that does specialize in these issues.

Why do you want a therapist who specializes in these areas? A therapist that does not specialize in sexual issues may not be able to give you accurate information or the kind of guidance and direction you need, and may even report you to the police out of the mistaken notion that simply having a sexual attraction to children puts you at risk for sexually abusing a child. You want a therapist that has more familiarity in these areas to avoid some of those issues.

Questions To Ask A Therapist

There are many questions that are helpful to ask a therapist to ensure you have a good understanding of how they approach things.

You want a therapist that is familiar with sexual health, uncommon or paraphilic sexual attractions, or otherwise is a “sex-specific” therapist.

It is helpful for the therapist to be affiliated with an organization, and you can write down what they say and search or ask about any other affiliations to see what those organizations are about.

This information may also be available on their website, if they have one. You want someone with a master’s or higher level education in psychology, and you want the educational institution to be one you recognize or know of.

They should be able to give you a detailed answer. They may have you do tests before you are given a diagnosis, and they may go over a treatment plan with you.

You want at least a few clients, and you want at least a few separate issues, not just the issue that you are potentially seeing the therapist for.

This may seem like an odd question to ask, but answering yes to this question means they will be familiar enough with a sexual attraction to children to be able to help. They will also know when you are and are not at-risk for acting out much better than a therapist with no specific training or experience, and will know how to intervene. A good follow-up question to this is to ask their opinion on how many sexual abusers have pedophilia: A knowledgeable person should say that few, or a third, have pedophilia.

Again, this will help you know if they are familiar enough with these issues to be able to help you.

You want someone who can help you accept your attractions, but also challenge negative thoughts and beliefs. You want a therapist who at least somewhat uses cognitive behavioral therapy, or at least factors cognition into their practice.

Plethysmographs are a specific test to give your therapist an understanding of where your attractions lie. These tests may be disturbing to you, but should not be cause for anxiety. They can help you understand what populations you are most attracted to, but they can also be very uncomfortable.

Arousal reconditioning describes a variety of behavioral methods to change what you are sexually attracted to. You can read more about this method here. These methods are controversial both in terms of effectiveness and ethics, and can be a hotly disputed topic even among therapists. Many therapists do not agree with using this method, as it can cause severe psychological damage and some even consider it to be a form of sexual abuse. It is better to avoid therapists who use this method.

An expert who knows what they are dealing with should say something about accepting yourself and your attractions, understanding the difference between fantasy and action, and be able to give you a good understanding of how they deal with minor attraction. If someone answers yes to the second question, find a different therapist: Most current peer-reviewed research suggests that attempts to change sexual attractions result in harm, and you can do real mental damage to yourself by involving yourself with a therapist who believes they can change your sexual feelings.

Sex-positive is a way of approaching sexual topics to put them in a more positive light. You want them to answer yes. The last thing you need is to be shamed for having sexual attractions you cannot help, or be stuck with a therapist who may try to change them.

Some programs use a team-based approach, and participation in their treatment program might be subject to team decisions about what you are able or unable to participate in. The goal of this question is to get a feel for how their program works, and the goal of any requirements or conditions is for your mental and emotional health.

They should be able to go into detail on this question without handing you a form to read, but sometimes this information is going to be on an intake form that you sign to indicate you know what you are getting into. They should be able to explain it clearly, and you can ask about anything you are not familiar with, maybe ask them about a few situations you can think of beforehand.

They should be able to give you a few ideas, and asking questions about reporting to law enforcement should help you understand how they view mandatory reporting.

What Therapy Does

Some people need therapy to change what they think and believe about themselves, others, and the world around them. Some people do not. If you can accept the ideas from the questions at the top of this page without therapy, then you may not need professional therapy. 

While sexual behaviors with children are indeed wrong, there is a need to separate sexual attraction, sexual fantasy, sexual thought, and sexual behavior, as they are four distinct ideas. Sometimes, we may be tempted to think that all four things are the same, and changing that thinking is part of what therapy can accomplish, but that can also be accomplished with time and support. 

The bottom line about a sexual attraction to children is that it is separate from behavior: It is a sexual feeling, just like being heterosexual, homosexual, or any other sexuality is just a sexual feeling. Acting on a sexual attraction to children with a child is wrong for reasons discussed above, where acting on other sexualities must happen in appropriate situations but is otherwise perfectly fine, and that is the only difference between pedophilia and other sexual attractions: The ability to act morally on the sexuality with the person you are attracted to. While accepting that and moving past it can be difficult, it is possible. 

Resources For Support And Professional Help

These are resources on external sites which are unaffiliated and not endorsed by this site. Please read the terms of use for more information. This list is alphabetical.

This is a US-specific organization that educates, certifies, and trains therapists and others in topics related to sexuality. They have a tool to locate sexuality professionals in your area, provided you live in the US.

This is a referral tool that you can use. It is a confidential form where people can get help with a variety of issues. Do not let the name of the organization fool you: They are mental health professionals who only want to help, and they will not assume you have or will molest a child because you have a sexual attraction to children. Under “referral type”, select “community outpatient”, and under “notes”, indicate that you are looking for a therapist who can treat minor attraction.

Help Wanted is a project of the Moore Center for the Prevention of Child Sexual Abuse, aimed specifically at adolescent and young adult minor attracted people. It takes the form of a static course that young minor attracted people can learn from.

This site has affiliates that treat forensic (criminal) and non-forensic populations for sexual issues. They may be a useful tool in finding more about therapy, answering questions, and finding a qualified therapist.

This is a UK-based organization aimed at helping prevent sexual offenses before they happen. They have professional resources available specific to the UK.

Safer Living Foundation is a Nottingham, UK-based charity that works primarily with people who have sexually offended and people who feel they are at-risk to do so.

This is a 12-step program designed for those with sexual addiction or dependency issues. They have meetings in the US, Canada, and a variety of other countries. They also have electronic meetings if your country is not represented, and they have a handy tool at the top to find out if their program is right for you. Similar programs are Sexaholics Anonymous and Sexual Compulsives Anonymous.

Virtuous Pedophiles operates as a forum, and their public splash page has a great deal of facts, information, media, and resources available for anyone wishing to know more about minor attracted people. Their forum is not a fit for every person.

This site is a great place to start for anyone with a sexual attraction to children, and has links to some of the other organizations mentioned in this section. Their master list of providers can be found here. This organization was started by a minor attracted person.

This organization has a lot of academic information, as well as general information about a sexual attraction to children. It is a great place to get help and find basic information about professional therapy.

The Global Prevention Project serves as a professional solution to many different internal and external sexual issues, including sexual attraction to children. They are global, and know of resources in many countries.

Safer Lives is a UK-based project led by a three-person team, and provide support for people who have harmed or are under police investigation.

This site has information available in English, German, Finnish, Spanish, and Russian about minor attraction and how it differs from child sexual abuse. There are some support resources available.

Stop It Now! operates a helpline available in the United States, and they can direct you to resources in those areas as well as serving as someone to talk to. Most contact is anonymous unless you choose to share identifying information. While Stop It Now! does have a UK branch that is not affiliated with the US version listed here, this site does not recommend the UK & Ireland program due to their sex-negative approach to fantasy out of fears it may be harmful for some people.

This organization is one of many focused on sexual health, and they have a tool that can show affiliate therapists on a map. This can be a useful start for finding therapy, though doing a simple Google search with “sexual health therapists in [location]” may be easier.

MAP Support Club used to be part of the above list, however, they have been removed due to a slew of concerns. If they are rectified, they may be relisted.

Additional Resources

Finding the right support for your needs can be a challenge, and part of that challenge is using the correct words to find what you are looking for. Searching for “sexual health therapy” in your area can be a great place to start, and some of these organizations, if they do not directly treat a sexual attraction to children, may know of places that do and can provide a referral. If you live in or near Minnesota, Iowa, North Dakota, South Dakota, Wisconsin, or Illinois, the Center for Sexual Health can provide these resources. 

Aside from professional resources, many have found that online resources like B4U-Act, Virtuous Pedophiles and MAP Support Club are very helpful for their situation. Sometimes, it is helpful just to talk with someone who faces something similar.

MAP Support Club used to be part of the above list, however, they have been removed due to a slew of concerns.

MAP Communities

For many minor-attracted people, MAP communities – such as B4U-ACT, Virped, and others – are part of having support. Many find that these communities meet their needs, while some find heavy discussions, polls, and news discussion triggering. Some lesser-known communities that you may come across may have what they call “contact stance” which means the general opinions allowed to be spoken on the subject of sexual activity with children. It is the opinion of this site that communities that allow discussion on contact stance are not ideal for young minor-attracted people, victim/survivors, or for people new to MAP communities, but may be valuable to some who have been in communities a long time trying to convince minor-attracted people. The average newcomer will likely find Virtuous Pedophiles a better entry point than most other communities.